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How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Yoshin - 06-22-2018
More and more I often feel like, ignored/invisible. I know this isn't the case at all but that doesn't change how one's emotions work. Going through the majority of the day without any chatting.
So now comes the titular question, how do you guys deal with feeling lonely? I'm curious to know.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Mariotroid - 06-23-2018
I have a lot of Facebook friends that I talk to and whom I relate to well. I don't talk to many real life friends. I use dating sites to find my dates. I talk to you mfgg folks... so yeah sometimes I feel lonely.
I mostly focus on self improvement and draw away my troubles.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - DustinVG - 06-23-2018
I honestly don't know if I have an answer. I know roughly how you feel, though.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Evil Yoshi Toes - 06-23-2018
The only way I've been able to deal with this is by getting together with friends. Of course that is not always an option which is when the trouble comes in, and in those cases I just draw or play video games to get it off my mind. I haven't really figured out a great solution to this issue if there is one.
I can kind of prevent this by hanging out with friends regularly, sometimes even when I don't feel like it. I have very low social needs but eventually I do need someone to talk to who isn't my family. My low social needs can keep me from staying in touch with people without me even realizing, making it harder to find friends to hang out with when I want to. To prevent this I often have to force myself to accept invitations to go out with friends even if I don't think I want to go out at the moment. It makes it more likely that they'd think of me in the future when I do want social activities and it makes it less awkward for me to reach out to them when I need to.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Retriever II - 06-23-2018
(06-23-2018, 05:23 PM)Evil Yoshi Toes Wrote: I can kind of prevent this by hanging out with friends regularly, sometimes even when I don't feel like it. I have very low social needs but eventually I do need someone to talk to who isn't my family. My low social needs can keep me from staying in touch with people without me even realizing, making it harder to find friends to hang out with when I want to. To prevent this I often have to force myself to accept invitations to go out with friends even if I don't think I want to go out at the moment. It makes it more likely that they'd think of me in the future when I do want social activities and it makes it less awkward for me to reach out to them when I need to.
This idea of low social needs is an interesting idea I can relate to. But in my case I think I've let relationships atrophy to the point that I only have a couple friends who I could just go hang with. It's not a great place to be.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - VinnyVideo - 06-23-2018
I'm not sure! But I totally understand where you're coming from. I've always suspected that my superpower is invisibility, since a lot of people tend to ignore me politely!
I'm basically an extrovert, but I don't have to be at a party 24/7 - I understand that being successful sometimes requires putting in hours of by-yourself work. And sometimes it's fun to play a game or listen to music by yourself.
But sometimes it's fun (and essential) to have meaningful interactions with other humans, and sometimes it's hard to do that. In my own life, most people I know well have moved far away, so it's not feasible to hang out in real life (at least with any frequency). It also seems most people already have established friend circles and don't have much interest in meeting new people or doing fun things (especially fun things that don't involve interesting beverages).
I try to seek out opportunities to do new things, although those tend to be more professional/educational than "fun".
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Retriever II - 06-24-2018
(06-23-2018, 08:47 PM)VinnyVideo Wrote: (especially fun things that don't involve interesting beverages).
Raging so hard.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - SonicKade2048 - 06-24-2018
I'm very emotional when it comes to being lonely, mainly because it happens to me a lot. My friends have been busy with plenty of things in their lives, and usually on their relaxation time they're off playing games or doing what they like, rather than hang out with me and do what I'd like. I know that everybody wants to do their own thing, but it's become more and more often that my friends don't want to hang out with me as much as they did in earlier years.
Even if they do go and do things that I'd like with me, most of the time they don't really enjoy it, or have gone to it so many times with me already, it's become boring for them. I find it harder and harder to find time to spend with my friends, and especially since summer break for me came earlier than most other people, that leaves them with school and/or jobs while I'm stuck at home being bored until they come home. I'm like a pet waiting for their owner to return, if you'd call it that.
As I've said, I'm very emotional with this. I occasionally have outbursts when I'm not in a good mood, and I'm very impatient when it comes to things like these. These two things combined make me get my friends to sometimes take pity on me, and I really feel like a jerk afterwards. I'm forcing them to take pity on me, and I don't want to have it this way, but I don't know how to stop it.
Nevertheless, even with all of these things going on, I still have fun with my friends at times. I just hope things can get better for me in the future.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Honey Saucer Gengar - 06-25-2018
I'm barely lonely because i have a lot of friends and I don't feel sad when I'm lonely because it rarely ever happens.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - SonicZetrex - 06-25-2018
When it comes to being lonely, it's sort of a rough way to deal with being isolated from one another, right? Or does it have something to do that in each day, we've always been silent without others knowing that we're being ignored (unless you have nothing to do but attempt)?
Usually, as long as there are allies or good companions that never segregate from you, then, shouldn't it be less troublesome to deal with loneliness by having some time of leisure alone? Since then, being lonely does feel rewarding of everlasting peace, but does it feel saddening to get through with other people while being known as "invisible"?
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Mariotroid - 06-26-2018
(06-25-2018, 10:50 PM)SonicZetrex Wrote: When it comes to being lonely, it's sort of a rough way to deal with being isolated from one another, right? Or does it have something to do that in each day, we've always been silent without others knowing that we're being ignored (unless you have nothing to do but attempt)?I found it hard to understand this post.
Usually, as long as there are allies or good companions that never segregate from you, then, shouldn't it be less troublesome to deal with loneliness by having some time of leisure alone? Since then, being lonely does feel rewarding of everlasting peace, but does it feel saddening to get through with other people while being known as "invisible"?
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - SonicZetrex - 06-26-2018
Well, it's just me trying to explain it. Though, it's never easy to make it as clear as possible.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Kaguya Houraisan - 06-28-2018
As much as I hated to be rejected and always alone before... as I've grown up, now I love being a loner IRL. Why need to deal with it? I can focus on my things much better, while distractions usually mean an issue to my productiveness. Not that I am antisocial, I am just more fond of engaging with people online, it makes up for all my shy and nervous traits that lead people to misjudge me in the real life. Happy to be what I am, I have started to get the hang out of this lifestyle. I can of course try to handle engaging with people IRL if I wanted to, but it's probably not my cup of tea, personally.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Hyper - 06-29-2018
I got used to it with countless amount of rejections. I rarely feel lonely. If I do, I'll just drive outside the city on an empty road to relax.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Razz - 06-30-2018
Whenever I feel lonely I force myself to go do social activities. Even if I'm still lonely at least I'm not sitting at home dwelling on it.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Huntsman123 - 07-03-2018
For me, working out really clears my mind and helps me move my focus away from the loneliness.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Kirby's Adventure - 07-03-2018
I suppose I'm also one who has low social needs, although sometimes I do get lonely. Usually, though, I just get bored and find something to occupy my time.
Being content by myself and gradually having low expectations of others as a youngster may have something to do with this.
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Nintendonette - 07-08-2018
I'd try to occupy myself with something to distract myself from feeling lonely. Like playing a game. Going out with a friend. Or even chatting with people online. It helps out, y'know? Don't worry, dude. Everyone has its up and down moments. You'll manage it eventually. Hang in there!
RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - zelma - 07-08-2018
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RE: How do you guys deal with feeling lonely? - Great Destination Tracks 3 - 07-09-2018
I'll stay in my Parking zone with no bad guys around