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Losing Friends - Mariotroid - 12-14-2017
Hey everyone, it's late at night. My girlfriend is enjoying time with her friend in another room and I have to talk about something. I know this will seem somewhat silly to be posting on a forum for video games, but here it goes.
Im not very popular or active on any other internet community besides the one here. Im heartbroken. I need to vent and just spill it out. My friends don' respect me anymore. Ever since I started becoming female and dating another trans girl, all my friends left. They don't want anything to do with my girlfriend. And not much to do with me either. It breaks my heart. My guy friends always picked on me and I guess I liked that in a way. Why? Cause that's what I felt like as a guy. They never really respected me.
Sure I have friends now, but it' not the same. And I want to say. I love and adore all of you on this forum. Even if I'm not the most active on here, there' a real sense of community. I'l always be happy about the time I spend here. No one is overly judgemental and everyone is nice. Even my poorly done game got a lot of support. I'm happy I'm here and if I didn' discover this place (especially during high school) I wold have suffered so much more. Thanks to all of you for being here. And thanks for the many plays of my games throughout the years. I love this site so much and now I'll say I'm done venting. Thanks again.
From Morrad1991/Mariotroid
RE: Losing Friends - Kritter - 12-14-2017
Doesn't much sound like they were really your friend to begin with if they spent their time picking on you.
In my experience, friends can be quite fickle things, loyalty is a hard thing to find in a friend. Especially now in the age of social media where people think they have hundreds of friends but none of them are REALLY friends at all.
RE: Losing Friends - Evil Yoshi Toes - 12-14-2017
I'm sorry to hear about that. I've had to stop talking to a couple of close friends recently because our relationships were quite problematic, so I can, in a way, relate to how you feel losing friends due to things out of your control. I don't believe that the majority of humanity is disloyal and evil, but in order to find friends who will be loyal and good to you you'd have to find people who are a good match for you. This is sometimes hard to do, especially if you're not an extremely streamlined person. Not to say all your friends have to be just like you or even similar to you at all, they just have to respect you and stand by your side and, of course, get along with you. From what it sounds like, those ex-friends of yours were not true friends at all and you are likely better off without them, especially if they damaged your self confidence. I'm sure you will find a group of good friends, and I hope you do soon. I'm glad MFGG has helped you with your struggles.
RE: Losing Friends - VinnyVideo - 12-20-2017
@Mariotroid Sorry to hear about that. I hope things get better soon. In your case, if you have "friends" who are being jerks to you, it might not be such a bad thing to drift away from them. It's still not a pleasant feeling, though.
My circumstances are very different from yours, but over the past year and a half, a substantial percentage of the people I talk to regularly have moved to distant lands. I try my best to stay in touch with them, but it's different now - I once saw them all the time and now don't have any face-to-face contact with them. It doesn't help that almost all of the other people I know in real life have full-time jobs and are in serious romantic relationships, or else aren't terribly interested in doing fun things (especially if said fun things don't involve merry beverages).
RE: Losing Friends - HylianDev - 12-20-2017
I'm sorry about your situation :/
Like others have said, they didn't sound like very good friends. It can be hard to find friends, but dealing with bad friends is never good either. Perhaps this loss is a good thing.
I wish you well going into the future! And I'm glad you find a sense of community here. I hope that sustains for a long time.
RE: Losing Friends - Vitiman - 01-09-2018
I'm so sorry that your ex-friends seem very unsupportive of you and your choices in life. I know it stings, but at least take solace in the fact that you can always make new friends - friends who will respect you for who you are, and friends who will care about you and want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them!
As is a poorly kept secret, I had a rather public falling out with an old group of friends almost 5 years ago. It's difficult to move past it all, especially when you're made the scapegoat of other peoples' problems (it doesn't help I lashed out in fairly childish ways in response to many accusations), but I assure you that it does get better with time. If I were you, I'd recommend trying to move on as soon as you can and look into befriending new people. It's not an easy process, and it's not a short one, but it's entirely possible.
RE: Losing Friends - GStache - 01-09-2018
Awww, I'm sorry. I'm kinda in a situation like that too but with friends I've known for a long time who don't talk to me anymore (even when I try talking to them every now and then). Though at least I have those good friends that DO things for me that are really appreciative. MFGG is a place I can come to when I just want to relax and back away from stress, it's fun to see the amazing art people make and some cool games in the works. It pushes almost all of that stress away, and I try to visit this site everyday. It just makes me wish I had more respectful friends and ones who actually care for people while not being selfish. There doesn't exist many people at my school who stick out like a sore thumb as a role model, and that's pretty sad to be honest (especially in my grade).
I know how it feels.
RE: Losing Friends - zelma - 01-20-2018
I think it''s cool when people can be themselves and do them to the fullest apologetically. Don't stress, good things are coming your way