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[The Dark Warrior]

okay this is going to be a collection of thoughts I have that I really want to air out. maybe a productive conversation could come out of it having seeing veteran members returning and some of them talking about their past experiences and also my own experiences with online communities and human relations.

I just want to say that I will fully admit I have negative rep and noone should care about what a disliked person should say. However I think its a vicious cycle when people who don't like you or hell even hate you just don't explicitly allow opportunities for people to change instead of typecasting them for whatever reason into a box when they should just try to tolerate that person bc they can change and they need to recognize it. I have seen this in many communities im in, including here.

Without forgiveness or having the kindness to tolerate people, this is why they feel like nothing they ever do to prove to people that they are making efforts to change matter if all that goes with them is a stigma that they are paying for...for the actions that they did to earn it. It's punishment enough just to have a stigma attached... When their efforts to change and I mean genuine efforts go unnoticed or rejected bc of how some of their actions in the past defined who they are to those people as a reason to close off seeing them change to be better people...this is why they feel justified in blaming others for continuing on this vicious cycle and the world and why I sometimes feel sympathetic to them, unless they cross more lines as a result. Regardless, it feeds into my cynicism.

[GothGirlGangBlasterMaster]

noone should care about what a disliked person should say.

yes they should

anyway i agree with the rest of your post but it's too vague to actually comment on constructively

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[Razz]

I largely agree, but I feel like this is beating a dead horse with the thread ostriche made earlier

mfgg just has a long long history of internet drama, it's unrealistic to expect everybody to act maturely. it is what it is, the best you can do is lead by example & hope people change

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[CuteYoshiGirl]

Do the best that you can to communicate with others. Sometimes it can be difficult, but explaining why you're commenting or expressing how you feel about something helps.

It's ok for others not to understand, just allow yourself to collect your thoughts and remove yourself from frustrating situations.

And if someone doesn't drop an issue and you've tried your best to explain something to the best of your ability, just ignore them.

Remember to be kind to others, remember to think about what you're saying before commenting. Is this hurtful to others, is this necessary, can I contribute to the conversation?

We all can become heated, we say things out of anger easily, but are you adult enough to apologize and to own up to your own actions?
Have adult conversations, don't belittle, don't harass, don't bully others because of ego.

Just remember, you're also in charge of how you want others to treat and respect you. Take initiative and you'll have better relationships with people.

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