People, it's time that we stop holding grudges against each other.

[Arrietty]

I know you have good intentions, but I really don't think you have any place in telling people how they should feel towards people that have harassed/abused them in the past. Especially when you don't know the extent of their story.

It is also kind of insulting to tell people to get over it and drop the "grudge" especially when we've dealt with a lot of trash that made us leave the community in the first place.

Again, I appreciate that you are trying to help. And I know this isn't your intention but I don't think invalidating people's feelings is the way to go about it.